In 1999, Fight Club starring Brad Pitt and Ed Norton hit the cinemas. Ā
It brilliantly satirized societiesā obsession with consumerism and how it tapped into our identities.
The more nice shit we owned, the better we felt about ourselvesā¦.which, of course, is a dangerous and warped delusion.Ā
āWe buy things we donāt need, with money we donāt have to impress people we donāt like.ā ā Fight Club
We have moved on.
Materialism is just one part of our complex modern screwball society. Ā If Fight Club was released today it would satirize successism.
Society is obsessed with perfection, with succeeding, never failing or making mistakes.
āWe airbrush out our failures and make ourselves look good to impress people we donāt like.ā ā Fucked Up Club
People are scared to make mistakes and look stupid.
This manifests itself in many negative ways š

Paradoxically, the main source of fucking up is our failed attempts š to avoid fucking up.Ā
All of the above means teams, companies, and individuals perform way below their skill sets by getting in their own way. Ā
Disclaimer: We are going to talk a lot about fuck ups. There are fuck ups and there are FUCK UPS. Not all fuck ups are the sameš

Fucking Up
I have fucked up. Repeatedly. Sometimes spectacularly.
You have, too. If you havenāt fucked up: youāve either never tried to achieve anything of significance or youāre telling porkies.
Welcome to Fucked Up Club.
Weāve all fucked up. Yet, we kinda deny it, even hide it. We make excuses and secretly beat ourselves up as we are ashamed of it.Ā
We airbrush out failures and photoshop our wins to embellish them. For whatā¦?Ā
To be accepted. To use our achievements to impress people we barely know and donāt even like.Ā
This doesnāt make us bad people. Quite the opposite in fact. We just want to be liked, which is human nature, after all.

But weāre playing the old rules from an outdated game.Ā
Weāre following the protocols of a society that demands perfection and makes failing a ghastly occurrence that we should feel ashamed about.Ā
ā Social rejection has the same impact on the brain as getting punched in the faceā ( Eiseinberger 2012)
The Perfection Game
So, we play the perfection game. Pretending everything is fine but inside we are hurting because, well, fucking up is hard to do.
At the root of the perfection game? Comparison.Ā And caring too much about what others think.
By any metric, I was a successful entrepreneur in the music industry but it didnāt always feel like that as I was comparing myself to people who were even more successful āand I felt a bit of a fuck up.Ā
Which was really fucked up!
I decided I needed to do more, push myself harder. My obsession with not fucking up led me on a path to spectacularly fuck up.Ā
A bonus point fuck up! Greatā¦Yay, me! *sarcasm*
And, of course, I then became ashamed of my fuck up.Ā Eventually, to stop me from going gaga, I started writing about my fuck ups which seemed to help others with their fuck ups, and writing and consulting became a thing.

Two years on, the principle I have learned š from my spectacular fuck up has changed my perspective entirely.Ā
I have come out the other side as a more badass creative, rebellious, risk-taker.Ā
I no longer give a fuck about fucking up.Ā I no longer compare myself with others. I mean, thoughts still drift through my mind but I donāt let them fester.
What others think or do is out of my control.
While Iād rather not fuck up. I am at peace with fucking up. You see, fucking up is just another step closer to not fucking up.
Success in any project is about fucking up and iterating methodically until youāre no longer fucking up.
Product/ service market fit is really just a systemized series of fuck ups performed and tested consistently to diminish fucks up with a goal of reaching zero fuck ups.Ā
Fucking up isnāt just part of the process; it is the process.
If you think about it, fucked up club is the same side of the āsubtle art of not giving a fuckā coin.Ā
No longer giving a fuck about fucking up disempowers the fear of fucking up. This Ā increases confidence, creativity, and, risk-taking.
The more times we swing the bat, the more times we will fail, and conversely the more time we will succeed.
Everything is math, really.

Not giving a fuck about fucking up is the key to high-performance.
Backward Law
āThe desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of oneās negative experience is itself a positive experience.āĀ ā Mark Manson
Manson got this concept from Alan Watts the modern British philosopher, who often talked about backward law.Ā I have written about it many times myself.
āWhen you try and float on the surface of the water, you sink; but when you try to sink, you floatā and that āinsecurity is the result of trying to be secureā ā Alan Watts
Backward law here is: fucking up is the result of fearing you will fuck up. It massively limits your potential because you donāt want to come across as:
- stupid
- incompetent
- negative
- ignorant
In 2015 Google conducted deep research into the traits their most successful teams possessed. They called it The Aristotle Project.
They looked into 180 of the highest performing teams in Google to assess the common factors for their success.Ā
They were shocked. It was not the level of education, the background, or the experience of the teams, it was whether psychological safety was present within the team ( Duhigg, 2016)

What is Psychological Safety?
Harvard Professor, Amy Edmondson described it as ā a belief that one will not be punished or humiliated for speaking up with ideas, questions, concerns or mistakes, and that the team is safe for risk-takingāĀ
In other words, the key to Googleās best-performing teams was the permission to fuck up. A safe place where everyone can put forward ideas without fear of looking stupid, voice concerns, and question conventional wisdom.
How about that? You donāt need MBAs from Harvard ( although they certainly help) or vastly experienced team members for high performance.
Anyone, on any team, in any company, can perform at their absolute best by simply removing the fear that hamstrings their creativity and innovation.
And itās not just Google that uses psychological safety as a high-performance tool.
The #1 ingredient in the secret sauce of Google, Apple, Pixar, and Tesla is allowing their teams to take risks, make mistakes, and fuck up, thus unshackling their full potential and true creative power.Ā
Psychological safety not only unleashes creativity and innovation it also increases employee engagement, massively increases well-being, promotes mental health, and reduces employee turnover.
And yet society at large is still stuck in their bullshit dance of trying to avoid mistakes in order to look good and impress people they donāt like.
The NASA Creativity Research
Regular readers may be rolling their eyes at this point, such is the regularity of my reference to the NASA Creativity test research.
But bear with me. This research combined with creative thinking frameworks and psychological safety is the key to your innovation badassery.

Google, Pixar, Apple, Amazon, etc, etc all know that to make hit movies and build billion-dollar products you need two things:
- To remove the fear that kills their employeeās creativity and their appetite for taking risks
- Creative thinking frameworks to solve problems
The best way to create psychological safety is to openly talk about our fuck ups and remove the stigma.

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Project leaders, bosses, and CEOs must talk about their failures and mistakes. Ā We all fuck up. We all shit in toilets and wipe our asses. Pretending otherwise is just nonsense. When leaders display vulnerability and honesty it encourages high-performing innovation.
By openly talking about our fucks up we create an environment of enthusiastic risk-taking rather than fearful trepidation.
So there you have it: the key to performing at our best is the permission to be ourselves, create bonkers ideas that are so crazy they might just work, without people taking the piss.

What Fucked Up club is:
- Itās where we own our failures, talk about them without fear of judgement, and use the lessons learned to drive our badassery.
- A place where risk-taking, experimentation, and thinking differently are basic requirements.Ā
- Itās where we destigmatize failure and accept itās the only way to high-performance levels.
What fucked up club isnāt:
- Itās not a place where we wallow in failure, feeling sorry for ourselves, bemoaning our bad luck, and blaming others.
You now have two options available to you:
A) Do nothing and let your fuck ups fester within you.
B) Liberate yourself and start owning your fuck ups on your upward trajectory to creative badassery.
Reply to this email and answer these three questions:
- What did you fail at?
- How did you cope?
- What did you learn?
I, in return, will reply back and tell you one of my fuckups and the lessons I learned.
Whatās the point in that? Well, we will both learn something new and you can start to own your fuck up(s)
Fucking up is human. So is our vulnerability. Letās be more vulnerable, creative humans who donāt give a fuck about fucking up.
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